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The Hidden Cost of Over-Giving: Reclaiming Your Energy Through Self-Love

From the moment we're born, we're immersed in social dynamics that shape our behaviors. One such behavior is over-giving—constantly putting others' needs before our own. While it may seem altruistic, over-giving often stems from a deeper desire for approval and acceptance.

Understanding Over-Giving

Over-giving isn't just about generosity; it's about seeking validation. We might find ourselves saying "yes" when we mean "no," or prioritizing others to the detriment of our well-being. This pattern can lead to exhaustion, resentment, and a diminished sense of self-worth.

Psychologist Abraham Maslow's hierarchy of needs provides insight into this behavior. According to Maslow, humans have five levels of needs: physiological, safety, love and belonging, esteem, and self-actualization. Over-giving often arises from unmet needs in the love and belonging or esteem categories. We give excessively, hoping to fulfill these needs through external validation.

The Roots of Over-Giving

Many over-givers developed this pattern in childhood, learning that their value was tied to how much they could help or please others. As adults, these behaviors persist, driven by an internal narrative that says, "If I give enough, I'll be loved and accepted."

However, this approach often backfires. Instead of feeling fulfilled, over-givers may experience burnout and a sense of being unappreciated. This cycle can be difficult to break, especially when it's rooted in deep-seated beliefs about self-worth.

Breaking the Cycle

Awareness is the first step toward change. Ask yourself:

• Why do I feel compelled to give so much?

• What am I hoping to receive in return?

• Is this pattern serving me, or is it depleting me?

Recognizing that over-giving is a coping mechanism can help you develop healthier behaviors. Instead of seeking validation externally, focus on cultivating self-love and self-respect.

Embracing Self-Care

Prioritizing your own needs isn't selfish; it's essential. By setting boundaries and practicing self-care, you replenish your energy and reinforce your self-worth. This shift allows you to give from a place of abundance rather than obligation.

As you build self-esteem, you'll find that your confidence grows, your relationships improve, and your overall well-being enhances. Remember, you are the source of the love and validation you seek.

Thank you for joining me on this journey toward self-discovery and empowerment. May your path be filled with love, light, and the joy of authentic living.

With warmth and clarity,
Truly Glowful